Tuesday, April 2, 2013

A Letter to Danny - April 2, 2013

Hi Honey:

I was just sitting here thinking.  You know me, I do a lot of thinking.  My thoughts took me into the past, as it's where the most important part of my life lies now.  I thought about boyfriends I had when I was young.  I had a few.  There was Alan Staker, David Broadbent, Jimmy Hout, Larry Hansen, Mickey Merchant and a few others.  They were the stepping stones, leading me to you.  For you see Honey, I had a few boyfriends, but I only had one love.  My one love of my life was you.  Boyfriends and "The love of your life" are as different as night and day.  The love of your life is the one you cannot fathom being without, the one who not only holds your heart, but also a part of your soul.

Times have changed since you and I were young.  Now, in this day, living together is the norm.  Marriage has been put on the back burner.  It's not for me to judge it this is right or wrong, but if I could tell our children or grandchildren anything I have learned in this life, it would be this. 

"If you make the decision to live with someone, be as committed to that person as if you had a marriage certificate tucked away in a cedar smelling chest.  If you are choosing to live with someone, make certain that person is the kind of person you would want to share your entire life with.  Please don't use "living together" as a means to having a back door, an escape route when things get tough or when angers flare, or when problems of life arise that needs to be worked out.  Make certain the person you are choosing to live with is the type of person you would want to be the parent to your children, grandparent to your grandchildren.  For you see.  Falling in love is a temporary insanity.  It is after that temporary insanity wears off, that true love sets in.  True love is the kind of love that will see you both through whatever life throws at you.  True love means you will stand by this person and he/she will stand by you for better or worse, through sickness or through health, rather you are rich or poor.  That you will stick by that person when age creeps around the corner, robbing him/her of youth, beauty, grace.  That when the skin has wrinkled and gravity takes control, and perhaps when the mind is lost to the past, when health requires a wheel chair or feeding tubes, you will look at that person and still see the love of your life.  If the person you are with is not the one that you would commit yourself wholly too, then perhaps it is not wise to live together.  Perhaps it would be the wiser to wait for the one you would be willing to marry rather you married them or not."

As for me my darling, I would rather have had one true love, one love of my life, that to have a hundred substitutes. And that I had in you.

You know how many times I think of you throughout the day.  You can hear me say "I love you, Danny" as I'm doing the dishes, or folding clothes, or driving in the car.  Sometimes without even thinking, those words escape my mouth.  I know then that you are so imbedded in my being, so deeply a part of me, that telling you I love you is as much a part of me as breathing.

I love you Honey, and will

Far beyond the 12th of Never.


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